People yearn for belonging. For acceptance, loyalty, and kinship in a place and with a people that is uniquely their own. The need is hard-coded into the human psyche and results in the intractable “racism” that Western man viewed with equanimity before his recent religious conversion.
Though buried beneath the liturgy of liberalism atavistic instincts linger. People dimly understand what brings them psychic well-being, and thus modernity’s persistent struggle sessions required to overcome that need.
It’s a lot to overcome. Homogeneity is the comparative comfort of walking through your own living room rather than down MLK boulevard during a BLM protest. The allure is so strong it requires a vast shaming and reeducation edifice to keep it from public expression.
Diversity equals conflict and, as a result, is exhausting. People instinctually seek to shelter themselves in like communities; or as liberals call them, Good Schools. These communities eventually coalesce into nations; or as liberals call them, Literally Hitler.
This ancient organic process doesn’t actually cease at accusatory invocations of ‘isms. Because it is fundamental to man’s nature in a way flamboyant political fashions are not. And it is why nationalism is immutable. The only variable being which nations will be permanently muted. Those who volunteer their own for the ignominy of history’s trash heap should do so knowing their pious self-sacrifice will be remembered by members of other nations not with admiration, but ridicule.
Though people seek belonging in the most intimate relationships first. Healthy men and healthy nations are built from the inside out. That starts with courtship and mate selection. This being the process where “extreme vetting” was first conceived.
I was thinking about how much these rituals have metastasized along with the culture in recent generations. This piece discusses the effects of Tinder (or Grindr for our liberal readers) on modern dating etiquette. And how for many an abundance of sex has created a scarcity of fulfillment. Discussing how technology is driving extraordinary sexual promiscuity and concomitant rates of STDs and disillusionment, an Aussie “sexual health doctor” made some observations I’ll excerpt below.
Dating apps are fuelling rampant rates of sexual promiscuity, according to a leading Brisbane sexual health doctor who “quite frequently” treats patients who have sex with up to 10 people a day.
Gonorrhoea rates went up 31 percent last year, chlamydia has climbed 48 per cent in four years and syphilis has jumped 70 percent in the past four years.
The behaviour is borne, ironically, from increasing social isolation.
Dr Rosevear said most were ‘regular’ men and women, who are isolated at home and use the internet to arrange multiple sexual encounters to fill the void of intimacy that their lack of social interactions created.
They are desperately wanting short, anonymous connection to alleviate that need to have a sense of belonging.
It’s also a way of avoiding the vulnerability of intimacy.
The internet can be a diversion from addressing the needs satisfied by long-term relationships.
The simple equation is people who feel valued take care and people who don’t feel valued take risk.
I am not a sexual health doctor, but would hypothesize that a young white college graduate exposed to 22 years of coordinated identity vilification and alienating hyper individualism might feel less valued than one nurtured with a sense of respect for and belonging to their own heritage and people. Though obviously that is an exotic theory, and one unlikely to result in promotions within university psychology departments.
Though still, by convincing young impressionable women that they are disconnected vaginal atoms floating amidst virtuous diversity whose moral imperatives are to secure corporate cube-space and terminate their pregnancies we are possibly producing entirely predictable social consequences.
As for young men, there is an intense thrill in exploring the charms of multiple available women. More intense than most men would risk missing if given the choice. It is the thrill of an adult amusement park. But what makes amusement parks so thrilling is the temporary nature of their attractions. If you actually had to live in one permanently, every day would be an endeavor to escape.
That’s ultimately why these people aren’t finding what they are looking for in the place they are looking. Sex is not affection, orgasms are not belonging, and chlamydia is an indifferent companion. It’s why even those who can have any partner in the world eventually choose one (though often enough serially).
People yearn for a place, a people, and a person they can call their own. Everyone wants a home that is exclusively theirs. Some may even call it a deep longing for love. And love is what this blog is all about.